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There was a country, a country of spirited and adept men, finding itself in the path of recovery from the heavy blows of imperialistic pas...

Sunday, April 04, 2010

You might have heard about guys who were left with broken heart coz of love..Have you  ever heard of a guy left with a broken heart coz of friends or rather friendship?(If dumping won't be considered inappropriate i would have used that)...Well if not...just go ahead..You are up for such a mind-blowing,stupid and completely weird story...(funny too as usual) :P.Everything was alright before two years and i was like 2007 T-20 world cup Dhoni by then(i judged people exacly and i associated myself with good people).But now I'm like T-20 2009 world cup Dhoni where all my judgement about people and circumstances are damn wrong.

Normally guys say that being in love is difficult coz u can never predict a girl.But if you ask me i would say that maintaining  a friendship is more difficult than maintaining  love with a girl.You 'll know why i say this at the end of this post. :( .The most important things in friendship, rather in any relationship  for that matter,are trust and respect.Well let me not baffle you much and proceed.Here it goes.....

To justify why i feel friends are daunting i will give an instance of two of my close friends..To say about him.He is the most peculiar and interesting character that i have ever come across in my whole life.(deserves to be kept in madame Tussuad's  museum :P).One of his striking feature is he kinda  fears to travel alone(as if any girl would kidnap him).And most of the times i would be the victim to give him company when he travels.When things were like this we joined the same concern.We were having training by that point of time.He was in a different team and  my bus route was different.One day i saw this guy standing at the bus stop with his team(With a guy and two girls).As i went near to him he started acting differently(I knew something was wrong) and kinda blinked like a culprit who has seen a cop.:P. As i approached i heard a voice prompting him to board the bus.(Needless to say that its his new busmate's vioces..I mean those two girls..)This guy promptly complied and started to walk towards the bus.The best part is he walked past me as if I'm from venus and he never knew me. God!.figurea(that too a mokka fig. :X) patha frienda kazhati vidrathu idhu dhana?.

My woes never stopped there and not with him alone.There is one more such a good soul.(pain in the neck :P:P:P).This is one of many other peculiar creatures that i met in college(there are lot many out there) :P :P.One day when i was in college with this guy i gave him his own medicine(i said and did what he usually does :P) saying that  "I'm seeing a girl and I'm interested in her".(This was just part and parcel of our pranks and nothing serious... :( unfortunately :P).He just listened to it.The next day we were sitting in the class and he was very seriously texting someone.I asked"whom  r u  texting during class hours?.Throwing a trademark disgusting smile he said"Your figure only buddy".

I said," What??.Which one?(...is it Megan fox or Julia Roberts...It can't be...you don't look like the one who would send international SMS..idiot:P :P) lets talk  about that later...Why are you texting her suddenly,I haven't even seen you both talking before.He replied"Yeah true dude!.Thats why I'm trying to develop a friendship."(friendship??...One more abuse to that word).I simply retorted"SMS?..That too to  a girl sitting in the next row?.Whatever...Keep couple of things in mind.One she is a wise girl..jus remember it..And don't u never text ur anni(sis-in-law :P :P) again.After that his favorite pass time was to text,chat and talk to her in my presence solely for the purpose of  teasing me.Finally  i was glad that a lie saved me and revealed who these guys are:P :P.(Lesson No.1:Don talk about ur girl friend or don't introduce ur girlfriend to these kinda guys..:P :P.Don even invite them when you get married :p).(EKSI :P)

These are my friends for you!!!(i mean these are my only noble friends who were from college).(Engamma appove sonnanga oru moonji kooda urupadra madhiri theriyala...ivanga kooda seradhanu...Nan ketta dhane.. :( :P :P).Such noble the guys around me were.If close friends themselves are like this i don't think i have to explain about others.When i told about respect,it  is not how you address neither the usual respect.But it is how you treat your friend,how you respond and how much importance you give to him.And why i said that maintaining a friendship was difficult for me is because you never know when people will turn being  good to you and when will they start behaving otherwise.And this particular unpredictable nature gives me whiplashes sometimes.Trust me sometimes i don't get sleep in nights.I'm little bit sensitive in these kinda things and at times i introspect whats wrong, forgetting sleep.

I feel like kicking out some people forever but my stupid mind brings all the flashbacks about the good things they did and the memorable moments i spent with them.(Bloody mind :X..i think i forgive  too much these days.).At the same time after saying all this  I don't wanna portray myself  as a angelic person either.I also did mistakes.But i guess i never slap or slapped  anyone virtually(i mean i didn't insult people).Sometimes i might knowingly do things coz i just can't be nice if I'm upset with someone(I'm very bad in pretending :P) and secondly coz i forgive anything and everything but i don't forget things.There are two ways in which you can handle these situations. One to be yourself.Two, to speak to people in the language which they best understand. And in the name of speaking to others in their language i think i have wavered from my principles for the past few months.I don't know how others feel when they act differently but i feel bad and guilty when i have to do few things.So I'm introspecting right now and i am making an attempt to be nice.At least for a selfish reason to feel good about myself.

Whatever happens people who are meant to  stay will be there forever.But what i wanna clarify is, being  friendly is not about sitting together for hours enjoying and having fun by teasing someone, its not about going to movies and cheer,its not about chatting about silly things to pass time,it is more than that and most importantly friendship is not something which is built but the one which flows from heart.If you feel it for someone befriend them and be trustful and give them the proper treatment.And please don't change over time and don't be a fair-weather friend.(it feels like hell when you realize all the past good times were just a mere joke.That thought need not be true and it might be as a result of frustration but don't even let your friends think like that for even a single second)Trust me I'm very bad in being sentimental and bad in being romantic :P :P so these are what i felt and i don't mean to offend anyone.I conclude by saying that There are two kinds of relationship one,in which you value your ego more than the relationship and the other in which you value the relationship more than your ego.Before involving just decide which one yours is.Thats all I wanna say!!!!....

Hard times are part and parcel of life.I understand that and this is also one such instance.But i just simply wanted to record and give shape to my thoughts which resulted in this post.Nothing else.I was quite critical about the way i described about my friends and i realize that.To keep the element of frankness and fun i wrote that way and I'm sure with the kinda of bond we share they won't mind this.(no other go :P you have to endure atleast this time.).One last thing i want to add,as i said earlier this noble friends that i got were from college and not any other(I'm quite happy with the troubles they give i don't want it from any other. )


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